Rub and Yawn

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Excerpted from http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/03/100323121755.htm:

ScienceDaily (Mar. 23, 2010) — Age and gender play a major role in how people respond to stress, according to a new study on 20-to-64-year-olds. Published in the journal Psychophysiology, the investigation was led by scientists from the Université de Montréal and the Montreal Heart Institute in collaboration with colleagues from the Université du Québec à Montréal and McGill University.

“Our findings suggest that women who are more defensive are at increased cardiovascular risk, whereas low defensiveness appears to damage the health of older men,” says Bianca D’Antono, a professor at the Université de Montréal Department of Psychiatry and a Montreal Heart Institute researcher.

Defensiveness is a trait characterized by avoidance, denial or repression of information perceived as threatening. In women, a strong defensive reaction to judgment from others or a threat to self-esteem will result in high blood pressure and heart rate. Contrarily, older men with low defensive reactions have a higher cardiovascular rates.

Note how the persons undergoing this study responded to the threatening information, by avoidance, denial or repression. None of these methods is healthy. The only sensible way to deal with threatening information — this is threatening information, not threatening sticks or stones or fists or even loud voices — is to work towards calmly accepting it. The fact that men and women responded differently in the study is irrelevant, as they weren’t studying the right thing!

What makes some information hard to accept is the emotional charge associated with it. Rub & Yawn provides several techniques for painlessly discharging this unwanted emotional energy. Once the heavy emotional content has been bled off, then the plain information can easily be accepted for what it is.

It is very useful. It is for both emergency use and long-term use, for you and your family and friends. Show others how to use it. Email or tweet or text the links to them. Don’t just use it once and then forget about it.

Here is a useful program to follow. First, deal with any really hot topic, anything that is really bugging you and taking up a lot of your attention. Maybe experiment with a few of the options, like The Yawn Machine, a YouTube video or two, then have a whack at the Core module of PaulsRobot.

After a few sessions, when you are fairly comfortable with the general procedure, have a go at cleaning up your entire life at a relatively light level. This might take on average about 15-25 hours, spread over some weeks or months probably. After doing it, you should be able to mentally scan over any period of your life and not get snagged by any bad memories. It doesn’t mean everything is perfect, just that you have discharged the worst emotional charge associated with the main uncomfortable areas of your entire life. You can read the details at The Yawn Machine or the Basic R3X module of PaulsRobot. All this is free of charge.

Don’t simply have one session and forget about it. Make Rub & Yawn a part of your regular life.

Parallel the mind — work with the topic that your attention is naturally being drawn to. Don’t address something merely because it is the next on the list or someone said you should. If it is pressed up against your nose as the thing to address, do it!

Some aspect of the overall topic will appear as most important. Address that exact aspect with Rub & Yawn. It should be intense. As you discharge it, it will become less important and some other aspect will appear as most important. Address both aspects if you can, but soon the old one will be hard to concentrate on. So address the new aspect fully. And so on until the session is obviously over, often within 20 minutes.

When running an event/incident or series of events/incidents, first address whichever aspect of it is demanding your attention. This may be the earliest moment of the event. Or it may be something in the middle or the end. Again, go with the flow, not some arbitrary sequence. The emotional charge associated with the event is stacked up in a particular order in your mind. This is not necessarily from beginning to end like a regular movie.

Go with the flow.

Visualizing has many possibilities, but they each include pro-actively manipulating parts of your unpleasant mental images, not just being at the effect of them.

Verbalization is often useful in addition, maybe writing down notes or a journal or even just talking to the wall. Talking to friends is sometimes helpful, but usually they are not trained counsellors and will often interrupt or tell their own experiences instead of simply listening and showing that they understood.

“Rubbing” includes stretching. You should rub fairly vigorously, and fairly continuously, not just a few times. Rub or stretch in whatever way feels right to you.

“Yawning” includes sighing, cathartic crying, belching etc. In other words, obvious bodily discharge.

Rub & Yawn does not have to be done in a formal session.

For example, you’re watching TV. You happen to yawn. You notice that you just got reminded of a failed relationship. Now you get pro-active. You rub your hands together firmly with attention still on the relationship. You yawn some more. You keep rubbing and yawning, looking at different aspects of the relationship. It’s more interesting than the repeat on TV. After ten minutes, your kid comes in and wants to play. You feel somewhat better anyway, and start playing with your kid instead.

Maybe you decide to finish off the topic later. Maybe you forget about it. Either way, next time you get reminded of that failed relationship it shouldn’t feel so bad.

This is explained more fully at The Yawn Machine.

See all 8 Rub & Yawn tips at the Rub & Yawn blog.

Rub & Yawn is a family of stress-release procedures that have been online since 2006. Most of them are simple to use and completely free of charge with no hidden costs. The easiest way to start is to follow along with the first Yawnguy YouTube video. Do the actions as they are described. Let it load fully before starting the session or you might get annoyed by the video stopping and starting.

If you cannot watch the video for some reason, another easy way to start is to read the one page write-up called The Yawn Machine. Again, do the actions as they are described.

The next posts are a series of tips that relate to the whole family of Rub & Yawn procedures.


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photo of PatriciaI had a look at your web site and as I touched things and yawned the problem became more distant. Because I could disassociate then I could solve the problem fairly easily. — Patricia Irvine

photo of JanetI have been yawning all day. What a great way to start a day! I can't wait to tell others about you. — Janet Bronte

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