Rub and Yawn

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Rub & Yawn has its own tried and tested techniques. It seems to work on a wide variety of people and case types, provided they follow the instructions. :).

Deciding it couldn’t possibly work (without trying it) because it doesn’t agree with some theory is short-sighted. It was developed empirically by observing some natural phenomena and trying out different things. It wasn’t developed to accord with pre-existing theory.

It is new. It is 21st century tech.

Don’t confuse Rub & Yawn with other procedures.

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We’re talking about mentally shutting down, “doping off” or “going anaten” as it is sometimes called. This happens in life too, not just in session. It’s when your attention suddenly goes out of your control and you get all foggy and if you don’t do something about it immediately you’re likely to fall asleep on the spot. It’s not harmful unless you’re driving a car or something, but it wastes your time. This is different from simply feeling tired because it’s been a long day and it’s time for bed.

The shutting-down phenomenon is what can make “solo processing”  (mental drills by yourself) very hard to do. Touching stuff forcefully right now is the solution to this difficulty.

You know that being slapped around the face or having a bucket of cold water thrown over you would wake you up, but that is not too real. A very workable solution is to stand up if you can, and urgently contact things around you like the chair or table or floor. Stamp your feet. Hit your hands together. Squeeze the chair. Bang your hand on the table. Make loud noises. This sort of thing.

Do this for a short while, maybe a minute, and you will stop shutting down, and get back to normal.

Now, whatever it was that caused the shutting down to occur is still there and might trigger a shutting down later. If you know the area, you can have a go at it with proper three-part Rub & Yawn procedure. And if appropriate you definitely should discharge it as you know it is very hot!

But recognize that it is very hot, and sometimes it will start to flatten you and you will have to take this action very fast to stay on top of it while doing regular Rub & Yawn on a topic.

Remember: Suddenly falling asleep? Touch stuff! Hard! Right now!

Find a hot topic that will discharge right now. Start visualizing and rubbing and yawning. Intensely. Continue the three parts of Rub & Yawn on that topic until it won’t discharge any more right now. You should feel calm and expansive. That’s all for now. It might take 10-25 minutes if you have been working hard on a really hot topic.

Another time there is nothing obviously hot to address. You decide to have a go at Topic X. You don’t know if it will work or not. So try it out. Do a proper visualization, maybe using the 6-direction technique, while rubbing vigorously. Usually a minute is long enough to see if any yawn/discharge will occur.

If it’s hot and it discharges, go with it. Continue doing Rub & Yawn right now on that topic. If there is no yawn or discharge after a minute, and no obvious signs that there is about to be one, drop it immediately. Go with what’s hot and dump what’s not.

Keep going with a session that is producing a good discharge, good yawns. The yawns will taper off after 10 minutes, 20 minutes, and then you will not be able to squeeze out any more. Great! Done deal. It’s not hot any more, so don’t try and run it any more.

Go with what’s hot and dump what’s not.

Parallel the mind — work with the topic that your attention is naturally being drawn to. Don’t address something merely because it is the next on the list or someone said you should. If it is pressed up against your nose as the thing to address, do it!

Some aspect of the overall topic will appear as most important. Address that exact aspect with Rub & Yawn. It should be intense. As you discharge it, it will become less important and some other aspect will appear as most important. Address both aspects if you can, but soon the old one will be hard to concentrate on. So address the new aspect fully. And so on until the session is obviously over, often within 20 minutes.

When running an event/incident or series of events/incidents, first address whichever aspect of it is demanding your attention. This may be the earliest moment of the event. Or it may be something in the middle or the end. Again, go with the flow, not some arbitrary sequence. The emotional charge associated with the event is stacked up in a particular order in your mind. This is not necessarily from beginning to end like a regular movie.

Go with the flow.

Visualizing has many possibilities, but they each include pro-actively manipulating parts of your unpleasant mental images, not just being at the effect of them.

Verbalization is often useful in addition, maybe writing down notes or a journal or even just talking to the wall. Talking to friends is sometimes helpful, but usually they are not trained counsellors and will often interrupt or tell their own experiences instead of simply listening and showing that they understood.

“Rubbing” includes stretching. You should rub fairly vigorously, and fairly continuously, not just a few times. Rub or stretch in whatever way feels right to you.

“Yawning” includes sighing, cathartic crying, belching etc. In other words, obvious bodily discharge.

Rub & Yawn does not have to be done in a formal session.

For example, you’re watching TV. You happen to yawn. You notice that you just got reminded of a failed relationship. Now you get pro-active. You rub your hands together firmly with attention still on the relationship. You yawn some more. You keep rubbing and yawning, looking at different aspects of the relationship. It’s more interesting than the repeat on TV. After ten minutes, your kid comes in and wants to play. You feel somewhat better anyway, and start playing with your kid instead.

Maybe you decide to finish off the topic later. Maybe you forget about it. Either way, next time you get reminded of that failed relationship it shouldn’t feel so bad.

This is explained more fully at The Yawn Machine.

See all 8 Rub & Yawn tips at the Rub & Yawn blog.

Rub & Yawn is a family of stress-release procedures that have been online since 2006. Most of them are simple to use and completely free of charge with no hidden costs. The easiest way to start is to follow along with the first Yawnguy YouTube video. Do the actions as they are described. Let it load fully before starting the session or you might get annoyed by the video stopping and starting.

If you cannot watch the video for some reason, another easy way to start is to read the one page write-up called The Yawn Machine. Again, do the actions as they are described.

The next posts are a series of tips that relate to the whole family of Rub & Yawn procedures.


Testimonials

photo of PatriciaI had a look at your web site and as I touched things and yawned the problem became more distant. Because I could disassociate then I could solve the problem fairly easily. — Patricia Irvine

photo of JanetI have been yawning all day. What a great way to start a day! I can't wait to tell others about you. — Janet Bronte

photo of LeeI had a chance to look at your website and tried out the yawn machine - I'm very impressed! If nothing else, it has got me thinking about the times and circumstances every time I yawn - which helps me understand a bit more about myself! Very effective! — Lee Lam 21/10/07

photo of SaravjitI visited www.yawnmachine.com and tried out your technique. It is brilliant and it works! It is fascinating to be connected to a soul who is contributing so much to all of us and helping us relieve the residual poison of modern life - personal stress. — Saravjit Singh

photo of LinaI kept yawning the whole week - it does work! It is very interesting experience actually, as soon as I start yawning I feel much better in a couple of minutes and I keep smiling, can not explain why, just happens! — Lina Bourdon

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