Posts Tagged ‘stress’
From a recent NY Times story at http://www.nytimes.com/2009/11/12/us/12families.html:
THE WOODLANDS, Tex. — Paul Bachmuth’s 9-year-old daughter, Rebecca, began pulling out strands of her hair over the summer. His older child, Hannah, 12, has become noticeably angrier, more prone to throwing tantrums.
Initially, Mr. Bachmuth, 45, did not think his children were terribly affected when he lost his job nearly a year ago. But now he cannot ignore the mounting evidence.
“I’m starting to think it’s all my fault,” Mr. Bachmuth said.
As the months have worn on, his job search travails have consumed the family, even though the Bachmuths were outwardly holding up on unemployment benefits, their savings and the income from the part-time job held by Mr. Bachmuth’s wife, Amanda. But beneath the surface, they have been a family on the brink. They have watched their children struggle with behavioral issues and a stress-induced disorder. He finally got a job offer last week, but not before the couple began seeing a therapist to save their marriage.
Note that they were doing OK for money. How much better do you think they would have been had they been making use of simple (and free) stress-release techniques to get rid of that unwanted emotional charge eating away at them all?
Don’t wait until such “excess baggage” ruins your life. Do something about it. Right now! Start at one of the entry-level links.
Excerpted from http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/03/100323121755.htm:
ScienceDaily (Mar. 23, 2010) — Age and gender play a major role in how people respond to stress, according to a new study on 20-to-64-year-olds. Published in the journal Psychophysiology, the investigation was led by scientists from the Université de Montréal and the Montreal Heart Institute in collaboration with colleagues from the Université du Québec à Montréal and McGill University.
“Our findings suggest that women who are more defensive are at increased cardiovascular risk, whereas low defensiveness appears to damage the health of older men,” says Bianca D’Antono, a professor at the Université de Montréal Department of Psychiatry and a Montreal Heart Institute researcher.
Defensiveness is a trait characterized by avoidance, denial or repression of information perceived as threatening. In women, a strong defensive reaction to judgment from others or a threat to self-esteem will result in high blood pressure and heart rate. Contrarily, older men with low defensive reactions have a higher cardiovascular rates.
Note how the persons undergoing this study responded to the threatening information, by avoidance, denial or repression. None of these methods is healthy. The only sensible way to deal with threatening information — this is threatening information, not threatening sticks or stones or fists or even loud voices — is to work towards calmly accepting it. The fact that men and women responded differently in the study is irrelevant, as they weren’t studying the right thing!
What makes some information hard to accept is the emotional charge associated with it. Rub & Yawn provides several techniques for painlessly discharging this unwanted emotional energy. Once the heavy emotional content has been bled off, then the plain information can easily be accepted for what it is.
Rub & Yawn has its own tried and tested techniques. It seems to work on a wide variety of people and case types, provided they follow the instructions. :).
Deciding it couldn’t possibly work (without trying it) because it doesn’t agree with some theory is short-sighted. It was developed empirically by observing some natural phenomena and trying out different things. It wasn’t developed to accord with pre-existing theory.
It is new. It is 21st century tech.
Don’t confuse Rub & Yawn with other procedures.
We’re talking about mentally shutting down, “doping off” or “going anaten” as it is sometimes called. This happens in life too, not just in session. It’s when your attention suddenly goes out of your control and you get all foggy and if you don’t do something about it immediately you’re likely to fall asleep on the spot. It’s not harmful unless you’re driving a car or something, but it wastes your time. This is different from simply feeling tired because it’s been a long day and it’s time for bed.
The shutting-down phenomenon is what can make “solo processing” (mental drills by yourself) very hard to do. Touching stuff forcefully right now is the solution to this difficulty.
You know that being slapped around the face or having a bucket of cold water thrown over you would wake you up, but that is not too real. A very workable solution is to stand up if you can, and urgently contact things around you like the chair or table or floor. Stamp your feet. Hit your hands together. Squeeze the chair. Bang your hand on the table. Make loud noises. This sort of thing.
Do this for a short while, maybe a minute, and you will stop shutting down, and get back to normal.
Now, whatever it was that caused the shutting down to occur is still there and might trigger a shutting down later. If you know the area, you can have a go at it with proper three-part Rub & Yawn procedure. And if appropriate you definitely should discharge it as you know it is very hot!
But recognize that it is very hot, and sometimes it will start to flatten you and you will have to take this action very fast to stay on top of it while doing regular Rub & Yawn on a topic.
Remember: Suddenly falling asleep? Touch stuff! Hard! Right now!
Find a hot topic that will discharge right now. Start visualizing and rubbing and yawning. Intensely. Continue the three parts of Rub & Yawn on that topic until it won’t discharge any more right now. You should feel calm and expansive. That’s all for now. It might take 10-25 minutes if you have been working hard on a really hot topic.
Another time there is nothing obviously hot to address. You decide to have a go at Topic X. You don’t know if it will work or not. So try it out. Do a proper visualization, maybe using the 6-direction technique, while rubbing vigorously. Usually a minute is long enough to see if any yawn/discharge will occur.
If it’s hot and it discharges, go with it. Continue doing Rub & Yawn right now on that topic. If there is no yawn or discharge after a minute, and no obvious signs that there is about to be one, drop it immediately. Go with what’s hot and dump what’s not.
Keep going with a session that is producing a good discharge, good yawns. The yawns will taper off after 10 minutes, 20 minutes, and then you will not be able to squeeze out any more. Great! Done deal. It’s not hot any more, so don’t try and run it any more.
Go with what’s hot and dump what’s not.
Parallel the mind — work with the topic that your attention is naturally being drawn to. Don’t address something merely because it is the next on the list or someone said you should. If it is pressed up against your nose as the thing to address, do it!
Some aspect of the overall topic will appear as most important. Address that exact aspect with Rub & Yawn. It should be intense. As you discharge it, it will become less important and some other aspect will appear as most important. Address both aspects if you can, but soon the old one will be hard to concentrate on. So address the new aspect fully. And so on until the session is obviously over, often within 20 minutes.
When running an event/incident or series of events/incidents, first address whichever aspect of it is demanding your attention. This may be the earliest moment of the event. Or it may be something in the middle or the end. Again, go with the flow, not some arbitrary sequence. The emotional charge associated with the event is stacked up in a particular order in your mind. This is not necessarily from beginning to end like a regular movie.
Go with the flow.
Rub & Yawn does not have to be done in a formal session.
For example, you’re watching TV. You happen to yawn. You notice that you just got reminded of a failed relationship. Now you get pro-active. You rub your hands together firmly with attention still on the relationship. You yawn some more. You keep rubbing and yawning, looking at different aspects of the relationship. It’s more interesting than the repeat on TV. After ten minutes, your kid comes in and wants to play. You feel somewhat better anyway, and start playing with your kid instead.
Maybe you decide to finish off the topic later. Maybe you forget about it. Either way, next time you get reminded of that failed relationship it shouldn’t feel so bad.
This is explained more fully at The Yawn Machine.
See all 8 Rub & Yawn tips at the Rub & Yawn blog.
Rub & Yawn introduction
Posted on: March 5, 2010
Rub & Yawn is a family of stress-release procedures that have been online since 2006. Most of them are simple to use and completely free of charge with no hidden costs. The easiest way to start is to follow along with the first Yawnguy YouTube video. Do the actions as they are described. Let it load fully before starting the session or you might get annoyed by the video stopping and starting.
If you cannot watch the video for some reason, another easy way to start is to read the one page write-up called The Yawn Machine. Again, do the actions as they are described.
The next posts are a series of tips that relate to the whole family of Rub & Yawn procedures.
I had a look at your web site and as I touched things and yawned the problem became more distant. Because I could disassociate then I could solve the problem fairly easily. — 
I have been yawning all day. What a great way to start a day! I can't wait to tell others about you. — 
I had a chance to look at your website and tried out the yawn machine - I'm very impressed! If nothing else, it has got me thinking about the times and circumstances every time I yawn - which helps me understand a bit more about myself! Very effective! — Lee Lam 21/10/07
I visited www.yawnmachine.com and tried out your technique. It is brilliant and it works! It is fascinating to be connected to a soul who is contributing so much to all of us and helping us relieve the residual poison of modern life - personal stress. — 
I kept yawning the whole week - it does work! It is very interesting experience actually, as soon as I start yawning I feel much better in a couple of minutes and I keep smiling, can not explain why, just happens! — Lina Bourdon
Your yawning techniques are great! Far too many people are stagnant and this gets everything moving again.— 
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